Medically Reviewed by Mark Hrymoc, M.D., Chief Medical Officer, double-board certified in General & Addiction Psychiatry
When someone you love is struggling with depression, it can be difficult to know how to help. Feelings of helplessness, frustration, and worry are common among partners. Supporting a loved one through depression requires empathy, communication, and patience—along with awareness of your own emotional limits.
Understanding Depression
Depression is a complex mood disorder that affects both emotional and physical health. Symptoms may include sadness, fatigue, loss of interest, irritability, and difficulty concentrating. Recognizing that depression is a medical condition, not a personal weakness, helps remove blame and fosters compassion.
How to Communicate Supportively
Open communication is essential. Use statements like “I’m here for you” instead of trying to fix the problem. Listening without judgment encourages trust and allows your partner to express emotions freely. Avoid minimizing their experiences or offering overly simple solutions.
Encouraging Professional Help
While emotional support is invaluable, professional treatment is often necessary. Encourage therapy or psychiatric evaluation in a gentle, non-pressuring way. Offer to help find providers or accompany them to appointments. Treatment options such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and medication can provide lasting relief.
Taking Care of Yourself
Supporting someone with depression can be emotionally demanding. Maintain your own well-being through boundaries, self-care, and, if needed, therapy. Building resilience ensures you can offer consistent support without becoming overwhelmed.
Seek Support
When one partner struggles with depression, both individuals benefit from a strong support network. Professional care can help couples navigate these challenges and strengthen their connection. For resources on depression treatment in Los Angeles, call (310) 601-9999 or visit www.mentalhealthctr.com.
References
- National Institute of Mental Health. (2023). Depression basics.
- Coyne, J. C., et al. (1987). Depression and the response of others. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 96(2), 112–122.
- Revenson, T. A., et al. (2016). Social support and chronic illness. Health Psychology, 35(3), 256–264.
